Dating after a broken relationship

Dating when you are young is different than when you are older. At a young age, dating has more to it, we are in love, we are engaged and a logical consequence is we are married and stay together for eternity. We don’t look at anything else.

To enjoy dating after a broken relationship and to make it successful, you need a number of things.
All the words containing the word Self, to name a few, Self-confidence, Self-respect, Self-acceptance, Self-awareness. But also Reality and Naivety are over.

See the first year as a year in which the word relationship is not yet an issue, but there is a commitment. The consequence of this is that you feel free and benefit dating. The commitment is needed to be able to build on something. If you are not clear to each other in the goal you are striving for, you start building on loose sand, then things are already going in the wrong direction in advance.

Feel and observe. Look at the other’s behavior, look at the character, and don’t be naive. After the first brake up, you have learned to consider yourself important too, and in the case of naivety you still figure yourself out and in fact you stand in a state of, I hope the other stays.

Continue to live your own life. Completely focusing on the relationship is the stab of the relationship. A relationship flourishes when both have their own lives and value themselves.

Communicate with each other. In the beginning we can do that very well. But it is also necessary when time goes by. If the other stops talking, think by yourself, is the other the right one for me.

Take the love for yourself seriously. Then you notice, because then you feel whether the other person is also serious, takes the responsibility to make it a success. That the other person is honest and sincere. Love is feeling and not thinking

Take a step back a few times with yourself and ask yourself a few questions. Are we on the same wavelength? Does the other person really live up to what he says. Is there mutual trust and respect? If not, talk with each other. If the other doesn’t change, is the other the right one for you.

The other also has disappoitments in life and love. Both have become careful. If not, think by yourself, did the other learn from the disappointments yes or no. Does the other sees his own traumas and is he working on it.

All kind of questions for yourself, to think of, before starting a new relationship. Why is this so very important? You have to protect the love for yourself, so you will never any more be disappointed in love.

If you think like this, you are ready for real love. A good medium can help you hereby. To show you what is important to start a new relationship. So chat or call with a medium after a break up. They can show you where it went wrong.

And what you can do to avoid disappoitments the next time. Mediums are the best in helping people who have problems with relations.