Emotionally mature

This suitcase full contains everything you need to live in an adult way. Your parents have looked closely at what you specifically needed for that. they have reserved you, and have adjusted them for that reason. Every step you took, they understood and they wanted you to grow into a person who could choose his own path. Because they understood that you are unique. They gave you everything for that. You are emotionally mature.

You have been lucky, unfortunately not many others, they are still searching, who they are for, what they want. Unfortunately they did not get the right one. They have had to keep in touch with others, dance to the pipes of the adult people in their lives and for that reason have not mature.

We’ve all heard the term emotionally mature once, or read something about it. We can be adults in age, but not emotionally. Then we are actually still holding the child in us and let them be in charge.

Fortunately we have many children in us. The happy child, the brash child, the free child, but also the frightened child, the angry child. All these children can be there. They have formed us where we are and are now with ourselves. As long as the children are in balance, nothing wrong. Then we are emotionally balanced. As soon as one of the children sets the tone, we are emotionally in imbalance and not emotionally mature.

Being non-emotionally mature has consequences for us in adulthood. If the frightened child is in charge, fear is the boss. And the frightened child wants to be seen and heard and will do everything that you do what the frightened child wants. Many of you who call a spiritual helpline are often at a loss. You turn to this help because you are stifled in your own thoughts, not realizing that your frightened child is defying you at adulthood. Because the consequences, as long as we are not emotionally mature, are great.

In a relationship that expresses itself as a good woman who is submissive, never puts herself in the foreground, is happy when every person in the family is well. The relationship itself is based on a possession. That property is then called love, but is never based on Real love. Occasionally this woman shoots out of her shoe. If someone in the family makes it really too furry. She also doesn’t understand why no one wants to listen to her, she has so much respect for everyone and it seems that no one has that for her. It is certain that this relationship will come to an end.

Often both partners are not emotionally mature. As long as it goes well, it will work. But as soon as time passes and both do not build the relationship. The frightened child doesn’t even know that that is part of it and the partner often can’t talk, then this escalates automatically. Then the woman is hurt, the man the bobbin. The woman accuses the man of having behaved like a toddler. He is narcissistic and selfish. The man tells the woman that she was the boss in the house and he is happy to be able to escape from prison.

The word narcissism is used for many of these relationships. As mentioned, many of you are turning to a spiritual helpline, with the focus on questions such as: Will my relationship be fine again. Will the other person returns. Totally ignoring the underlying reasons why you are now where you stand.

Fortunately, a spiritual helper is in addition to give a good future forecasts, and also help customers with their emotional maturity. Because only asking if the weather will be fine, you are not concerned with that. You need insights to grow emotionally mature.