Love without disappointments

After being disappointed in love again, you decide with yourself. Never again. All those men who run fast in the beginning and then drop out. All those men who can only talk sexually and don’t show any content. Or encounter a man who is still in a relationship and sees no problems in starting something with someone else. And what’s worse, only find out when you are a few months away. And then they do casually, oh I thought you wouldn’t have a problem with that. That is quite normal nowadays.

Not for you, you want a man for yourself alone and you’re done with all those men who are looking for something, but who have no idea what they want. Every time there is something, and after so many disappointments it is done for you with the men. But still, it keeps you busy, why others do and I don’t, you ask yourself. Is it me.

You decide once to contact a medium. You ask if love is yet to come for you. The medium indicates on the chat that you will certainly not be left alone. Slightly skeptical you say to the medium, I don’t believe in it anymore, so many men have been reviewed.

Then it becomes difficult, the medium indicates. The universe gives us what we ask. Well I have been asking for years for an honest, fun and genuine guy, but not yet received. I no longer believe in the universe. I apparently ask for the wrong things, because I have never met that nice guy. And yet, the medium indicates, I see it waiting for you. I understand you’re skeptical. If I sense you, the medium indicates, I see a woman who is ready for everyone, who wants the best for the other person and has difficulty saying no.

That is quite right, the woman says. That means, the medium indicates, that you may have taken a man by surprise if he has an interest in you. You are fully committed, you want to arrange fun things, based on your enthusiasm. That is true, the woman indicates. Could it not be that you arrange too much in the beginning. That this doesn’t give the man room to show you what he can do for you? And that if you don’t give him that space, the man will drip.

I have never looked at it like that before, the woman says, I always thought that someone would be happy if I arranged something. And yes I am so used to it, I always have to arrange everything myself, I am alone. Do you see that you also contribute to the disappointments in love? Yes, I now see that indeed, I now suddenly see what I have done and should not have done.

The skeptical woman suddenly becomes silent and sees the various men passing by in mind, feels the medium and gives her time for this. Yes, I see that I immediately went into everything and wanted to court the man on all sides. And because of that I did not give the other person the space to show something of themselves. Quite logical actually, now that I look at it that way.

The medium indicates that the next person who presents himself, will do nothing at all. Become a kind of princess on the pea and you will find that quite difficult. If you want a partner, then you have to keep yourself in the background when a man presents himself. And is also a very nice opportunity to see if this man really wants to do effort for you. If he doesn’t feel like it, say goodbye to him lovingly. Then you don’t feel hurt either.