Wanting to convince the other of you being right causes conflicts
is that something that has not been pronounced, we secure somewhere in ourselves. In this way we accumulate all kinds of emotions that are not expressed.
We prefer to avoid conflicts. In the relational sphere we want to try to avoid them altogether. No matter how strange it may sound, they want to avoid conflicts. How does that work?
Every accumulated emotion has to come out once. If it is not necessary to speak it out, it all comes out at the same time and that happens with an enormous load of anger.
Then there is still a conflict with much more intensity than that if it was immediately discharged. Avoiding a conflict is therefore not wise. Incidentally, we always think of the word conflict, something negative.
Having a conflict with each other is different, and that is still allowed. You are a different person who sees things from a different perspective. It is very logical that we can then think differently about something and start talking about it. It is a little different if we want to convince the other person that we are right. As soon as we find that we are right and the other is not, something will happen to us.
If we think we are right, we will try to convince the other person. This often happens with an increase in vote, and verbal energy is released. The other person feels that and wants to go over it. This is how a conflict is born.
Wanting to be right, talking with voice raising, apparently wanting to convince the other person of something. Then there comes a time when this escalates and that can be in the form of a big fight, silencing each other. In any case, an atmosphere is created that both do not want and do not know how to break through this impasse. They are unable to resolve this.
In this way conflicts continue to exist between us, which we do not want, just have no idea that we have worked on it ourselves. How can you prevent conflicts?
Don’t try to prevent conflicts. They belong to life. Tackling them directly is much less intense.
See for yourself that your opinion is your way of looking and that the other person can see it their way, have an understanding of each other’s opinion. Don’t want to convince the other person that you are right, you are both right. Don’t talk about raising your vote, because the other person will do the same.
What can you do to avoid a stalemate with a disagreement? The key word for this is understanding each other and each other’s opinions and expressing each other directly. That way you leave each other in the value that the other person deserves. Because the other person wants to impose your opinion, with that you give the other person the message, you are worth nothing to me, shut up, I know better.
You want to have control over the other, you see the other as a possession, for which you determine what is good for the other. And you also show that if you want to avoid a conflict. That too is a form of power. Conflicts will always be there, deal with each other in a loving way. And are you too stuck in something and want to get out? Contact an online Mastermedium.